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How do you approach the idea of self-love and self-care?
@chinchin Be kind to yourself. Focus on the positives and do the things that you enjoy. Accept that it's okay not to be okay.
@chinchin Man, I’ve struggled with this topic a lot during my awakening journey. We are so programmed. The 3d mindset wants to deflect all personal responsibility onto others so that we don’t have to look within to face our own shadows. When we awaken, that old paradigm of deflection can transition into extreme ownership when we start to look inward and start fully owning our own personal responsibilities. It’s difficult to look at challenging events that have happened in our lives where we were the creators of the challenge. The reason why the experience was challenging. I guess it’s a change in mind set or perspective. Like Lyn said, be ok with not being totally ok. Be ok with our imperfections? Love ourselves and our inner child like our own children. I try to love myself like I would love my inner child or my own loved ones. I try to stay conscious of how I talk to myself. I struggle. For me it helps being conscious of the intention of showing myself love and grace even when I stumble. Which is a lot. Lol. Self care is huge. Bathing, grooming, eating healthy, drinking water, working out. I’m really trying to work on self care. Cleaning my environment has been huge lately. I’m not great with balance or grounding so it felt really good to clean my bathroom this weekend. Stuff like that. I was so happy that I cleaned my bathroom that I took a pic. Lol. Attached. It was a mental win for me and there was more to it than just cleaning my bathroom. The meaning and what I was purifying was so great for self care. I took a salt bath in my newly cleaned bathtub right after. Trying to be better at self love and self care.
@chinchin Great question! I believe self-love begins with how you talk to yourself -- what is your inner dialogue? What are your thoughts like? Once you begin to develop self-awareness of what your personal perspective of yourself is, you get to decide how to move forward. This self-awareness usually promotes one to be more loving to self. So how do you love yourself?
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Thank you all so much for sharing!! I appreciated it all!! 🥰
@chinchin I know for me, I had to fully accept who I am and not care what others thought of me (that damn perfectionism). I grew up with a lot of shame and guilt. with a single very judgemental mother, no father, and my mom trying to provide for two children on her own. For me, it helped to love the fact that everyone is different, including me. I don't have to be perfect; I don't have to fit in. If I made a mistake or didn't do what i thought was the way it should be i started saying "things are happening for me not against me." I also had to realize that I'm creating my own reality with every thought and emotion. I started using the "I am" app to help with positive self-talk.
Self care that's another thing lol! I know for me with ADHD i have to actually schedule it in and put it on my calendar or else it's the first to slip by.
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All of the above comments. unconditional love in your heart will follow
I think it's fairly simple. To be able to take care of and help others, you have to also take care of yourself.
Loving yourself, at least in my view, comes from having accepted yourself fully, and knowing that you ultimately are, a being of love.
Loving others should come naturally to you, but I can see how that might not be easy depending on how your childhood and youth turned out.
To me, the world is one big family, which we should love no matter how they behave. Currently, I consider a substantial percentage to be confused or mentally ill, but that does not stop me from loving them.
Then there's also a percentage, who are unable to feel love, compassion, or empathy, and I tend to feel indifferent towards those. I may eventually be able to find love for them as well, but I'm not sure it's important right now.