Children in the new Earth and family dynamics

How do children behave in 5D? Children tend to be competitive, they don't want to share, they don't always mind what their parents ask - ok this might just be my kids. Anyway I'm wondering how a childs relationship with duality looks in 5D. I ask because I often find myself falling back into 3D because I've succumbed to anger and frustration because of the way I'm reacting to the way my children behave. For 8 years now I've been working very hard on taming my reactions to the way my kids behave, and I do have concerns when I am pushed to the edge of negative reactions. It's hard for me as a loving mother, who does it all on my own, to feel disrespected by my kids - yes they are only 6 and 8, but there's got to be a better way...yes?