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I would love to get your points of view on that...
EA has mentioned that topic with the fridge so I go with that... One partner wants a clean (steel) fridge (EA), the other does obviously not use the handle of the fridge so u see fingerprints all over (Nat). Its a recurring experience and will lead to discussions (don't know it does with EA and Nat, in my relationship it definitely will lead to more talking or even dispute...)
You could say Nat is not mindful enough, doesn't care of EA's wish and is unconscious in this part of relationship everyday life.... (like my partner tells me... (and that I'm childlike and not mindful/responsible for our common things...))
I can understand both sides - Nat's cause I tend to be like that (would be wonderful to her Nat's point of view on that), EA cause it seems rational and "right"...
What is ur point of view on an energetic and whatever level you feel, see or can talk about...?
Thank you very much, this one really burdens me...
Not sure if I can tell you the complete energy aspects of it, but arguing over silly things is normal in a relationship. Energies wont always be in harmony, and turbulence tends to be a theme with most relationships that I've seen. I saw my aunt and her husband arguing over toilets before. Personally, I would find something that both like, to keep it balanced.